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I love to escape into other worlds, to experience things that I would never otherwise get to experience and to learn things I would never otherwise get to learn — all from the comfort of my own sofa. It feels so safe to choose a book off the Christian fiction shelf at the library. So, I grabbed a book off the shelf. A book that is a New York Times Bestseller.
A book that is advertised as being about a small town, and not overly romantic. Unfortunately, these novels can all too easily set us up for unrealistic expectations in our own marriages. We women long for a strong, masculine man who will be so in tune to our feelings and needs that he will know what kind of flowers we would prefer from five minutes of just being in the same room with us. We long for a man who will instantly realize when we are sad or happy, elated or devastated and will know exactly the right words to say to us.
And, we can read about these men in Christian romance novels. Real men often have to work long hours, sacrificing time and energy to provide well for their families and therefore being unable to meet our every emotional and social need. And it is utterly, utterly unfair to compare our husbands to this standard.
The touch of his mouth on hers was hesitant at first, testing, as if he half-expected her to pull away. But, with her palm pressed against his soft cotton shirt, she felt his heart beating under her hand, and she kissed him back without thinking. His arm moved around her waist, and he pulled her loser. The pressure of his mouth grew more intense for one tantalizing moment, and then he stepped back and let her go…. Once inside, he found some dry clothes for them both. Jessica ended up in a sweatshirt several sizes too big. Sam stood nearby changing into a dry T-shirt. She tried not to stare at his muscular chest and well-defined biceps as he pulled off one shirt and pulled on another.
She could feel her cheeks grow red as she averted her gaze. Can we call this what it is? This is sexual tension, strong attraction that is bordering on lust. And, when our own lives are filled with sinks of dirty dishes to wash, reading about these situations can be deceptively enticing.
We wish for excitement, for romance, for the strong feelings of youth that no longer seem to be present in our own marriages. So, we read about these situations and we imagine ourselves in them, and the strong handsome man that we share the imaginary scene with may or may not be the flabby balding man sitting across the room from us….
Christian romance novels often encourage women to fantasize about romantic moments with men other than their husbands. This not only sets us up for disappointment in our own very real and often unromantic day-to-day lives; it also weakens and destroys our marriages. When we read Christian romance novels, we need to be very careful to discern where Biblical truths stop and subtle lies begin. The Christian fiction book quoted above had an excellent passage about a woman overcoming depression.
The authors also wrote about how life is outside of our control. We must rely on God. It even quoted some Bible verses. For example, the hero of the story is a young man who attends church regularly and supposedly takes his faith seriously. And yet, in defiance of 2 Corinthianshe is willing to date an attractive young woman who is described as having no relationship with God. The unrealistic expectations that these novels create are lies. The ability of the main characters to place themselves in the way of temptation and yet come out unscathed is also a lie. In the book that I read, the hero took the heroine back the to home that he was remodeling.
There, while alone, they kissed and walked together in the rain, getting thoroughly soaked. It is not the kind of situation I want my unmarried daughter to be in. And, I would be extremely disappointed in my son if he led his girlfriend into a situation of temptation like this.
So, why would I read about it and think that it is all right? As Christians, we need to celebrate what is good and pure and intentionally avoid situations of temptation. We need to sharpen our minds and analyze whether the situations we are reading about are encouraging the story characters and thus us towards purity and goodness… or setting them up for temptation.
Many modern Christian fiction books sacrifice purity and goodness in favor of drama, intense emotional moments, conflict, shame, and lust. We need to hold ourselves to a higher, Biblical standard. Christian fiction romance novels are fun to read.
But, if we are spending time reading them and not reading our Bibles, there is a problem. If you find yourself spending a lot of time reading fiction novels, you may want to ask yourself if it is a good use of your time. I see nothing wrong with relaxing with a good novel. But, we must do it in moderation. If you find yourself struggling in your marriage, perhaps it would be wiser to turn to a non-fiction book filled with Biblical wisdom on ways to strengthen your marriage rather than escaping into a fantasy world of romance that will leave you feeling even less satisfied with your marriage.
Are the books that you are reading leading you toward God and toward purity? You can easily determine that by answering these five questions:. What do you think? Do you agree or disagree with the these thoughts? I would love to hear your opinion! Please scroll down to comment. Save my name,and website in this browser for the next time I comment. Jan I am an avid reader. Which is why I recently found myself browsing the Christian fiction section of my local library. Christian romance novels set us up for unrealistic expectations in our own marriages.
We long for a man who will be infatuated with us, longing to serve us, noticing only… us. And, after years of marriage, real men may still have no clue what our favorite flowers are. Christian romance novels encourage us to fantasize about other men. Christian romance novels often mix Biblical truths with lies. These are wonderful truths to think about. The only problem is that there are subtle lies interwoven with the truths in this book.
And, of course, it all worked out in the end when the heroine became a Christian. Unfortunately, many Christian romance novels mix Biblical truths with lies. Christian romance novels often do not celebrate the good and pure. Christian Fiction Book Tests: Are the books that you are reading leading you toward God and toward purity? You can easily determine that by answering these five questions: Does this book encourage me to appreciate and value the good things in my husband? Or does it leave me feeling dissatisfied with my marriage, family, or life? Does this book encourage me to imagine romantic scenes in my mind with a man other than my husband?
Does this book tell me the truth about life? Or, does it mix lies with truth? Does this book celebrate purity?
Or, does it sacrifice purity for sexual tension and drama?Christian romance stories
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