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If you find yourself hoping for deeper intimacy—an important element in any serious relationship—or want to breathe life into a marriage that's losing its pulsestay with us.
We spoke to the experts to discuss what the four types of healthy intimacy look and feel like—the emotional, mental, spiritual, and physical —and why intimacy is essential to our overall well-being. And, we gathered tips for how to foster—and sustain—its presence in your life.
The first step? Lean into self-love and learn to be vulnerable. Next, begin to show up for your partner in small, thoughtful ways day to day, listen closely to their desires and needs, and give them plenty of breathing room to stretch themselves and evolve. Read on to better understand the meaning of intimacy, and how to have an intimate relationship.
Intimacy means you're willing to expose the most private angles of yourself, while allowing your partner to do the same. However, there is a swirl of misconceptions surrounding what defines an intimate relationship. A healthy intimate relationship doesn't involve shutting out the rest of the world.
Rather, it makes plenty of room for personal goals and fulfillment outside of the relationship, she suggests. So while some might experience sex as the ultimate act of love, for others, it could be a means of avoiding closeness. To be in an intimate relationship, you have to allow yourself to be fully seen for all that you are and declare to your partner, "This is the truth about who I am and who I want to become.
Caroline Leafcognitive neuroscientist and author of Switch on Your Brain: The Key to Peak Happiness, Thinking, and Health believes that, before you can experience intimacy, you must embrace all aspects of yourself and take full, compassionate responsibility for what you bring to the relationship. Humans are biologically hard-wired for connection, and Dr. Leaf says being intimate with loved ones hosts a world of benefits—from brightening our mood to promoting physical longevity.
Lydia Denworthscience journalist and author of Friendship, says there is a group of neurotransmitters that are activated by intimacy and released in the body: oxytocin, endorphins, dopamine and serotonin. Emotional intimacy is the willingness to praise your partner when they land the job of their dreams, but also affirm and comfort them when they don't close the deal. Although the lines between emotional and mental intimacy are easily blurred, this one is about tapping into your shared interests and values. It might include talking about the books or films that intrigue you or the philosophies that resonate with you.
Or, it could be topics as simple as hobbies or sports that enliven you. In other words, your beliefs do not have to mirror theirs, only honor them. And while physical intimacy might involve sex, it's not limited to that. Humans are diverse in nearly every possible way, which means some are more sexually-driven than others. Betrayal and mistrust—of the sexual and non-sexual variety.
It could mean lying about your finances or divulging embarrassing information about your partner. And then there is another big offender—gaslighting and manipulation. But there are a slew of other behavioral habits that are much more sneaky, such as avoidance, stonewalling, and being overcritical, dismissive or close-minded with your partner. To begin, Mancao suggests carving out at least 30 or so minutes every week to go beyond the small talk and get real with your partner.
And finally, when your partner listens, show your appreciation—or else you risk creating a mixed bag of defeat and withdrawal.
The longer you're committed to someone, the more you'll have to unlearn who you believe they are, and relearn who they are becoming. Intimacy involves the willingness to accept the inevitability that your partner will experience shifts in interests and priorities over time. Denworth says that the hallmark of true intimacy is a relationship that is positive and cooperative—even through times of change.
On that note, to help intimacy grow, Mancao suggests that you never stop being curious about your partner. The magical ingredient to creating a deep connection lies in the daily effort you put in.
For example, it could mean shooting a thoughtful text to your partner during their lunch break. Or, it could be that you set the coffee pot to brew and hang a fresh towel for them by the shower before bed. Your Best Life.
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